First Steps
Your First Steps


First Step: DON'T PANIC

  1. Stay calm - Getting sad and hopeless isn't going to help you.
  2. Stop calling, contacting your ex because it may do more damage then good at this stage.
  3. Consider the questions below before you go any further

    Panicking can be very damaging and it will only confirm their decision to break up. These actions push them farther away because you're probably being clingy and demanding more time.

    Some Signs of Panic

    1. TW likes to call it "Text Messaging terrorism", this is when you send a ton of text messages trying to get replies.
    2. "Drunk or Emotional Dialing", or calling over and over again.
    3. Frequent arguments about the breakup
    4. Talking to their friends and family about the breakup. This is your way of denying it.
    5. "Accidental" Meetings.

 


"So What Exactly Should I Do Then?"
This may seem counter intuitive because it is going to be the opposite of what you want to do.

Agree with the break up (don't worry this is only temporary)
Try to be okay with it. Agreeing with the breakup will make your ex lose the satisfaction of being in charge of your happiness, and as much as this may sound unlike your ex, the human brain feeds off of these feelings of power.

"How will this help?"
As the saying goes "A hungry dog doesn't get fed". The more desperate something is, the less appealing it becomes. This is basic human psychology.

Decide Why You Want To Get Back With Your Ex


 

Its always important to know why you want to get back with them.

Obviously you have the desire to fix your lost relationship because you have found this page. It is very important that you stay calm and don't overwhelm your ex with text-messages, emails, voice-mails etc. because this will just make it harder to get back together!

You have suffered the loss of someone you care about and want to get them back as soon as possible!





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